Does your child insist that only one parent put them to bed? You’re not alone! Bedtime is a vulnerable time, and children often cling to the parent they associate most with comfort and sleep. But this preference isn’t rejection—it’s simply an attachment pattern built through routine. The good news? Attachment is flexible, and with patience, children can build trust and comfort with both caregivers at bedtime.

In this episode, we’ll explore a gentle, connection-based approach to introducing another caregiver into the bedtime routine—without forcing it or causing distress. We’ll discuss why children develop strong bedtime preferences, small steps to ease into shared bedtime responsibilities, and how a predictable routine can help kids feel safe regardless of who is putting them to sleep. We’ll also talk about strengthening connection outside of bedtime to make transitions smoother and why it’s okay if each parent has their own way of settling a child to sleep.

If bedtime has become a one-parent job in your home and you’re looking for a gradual, attachment-focused way to help your child adjust, this episode is for you. Tune in for practical, reassuring guidance to help your child feel safe, secure, and supported as they learn to embrace bedtime with both parents.

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Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with.

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