The Dynamics Of Everyday Life

Procrastination.  It’s something we all find ourselves up against.  But what if it’s more than being lazy or wanting to avoid something?  In this episode I explore what might be going on for us when we drag our feet.Don’t be put off by the title.  I do talk about my tax return, but to help us understand why we might be tripping ourselves up, not in a way that’s going to send you to sleep – or at least I hope not!Here are the highlights of this episode:(0.25) Procrastination(1.38) How you do anything is how you do everything, or not(3.21) The repetition compulsion(6.48) Asking for what we needSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

Do we always know what makes us happy?  Sometimes we do, and sometimes we don’t.  And sometimes our defence mechanisms can cause us to cut our noses off to spite our faces.If you’ve ever dug your heels in when a friend or relative has given you an opinion that you know is probably true, but you don’t want to think about, then this episode is for you.Here are the highlights of this episode(1.40) Training lorry drivers(2.20) Being competent doesn’t necessarily make you happy(4.11) Man with the hat(6.08) Sometimes we don’t know what’s making us unhappySign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

How many times have you been annoyed by other passengers getting in your way?  Possibly more than you would like to admit?  It happens to all of us and can have an impact on how we move forward, both literally and metaphorically.  In this episode I explore what’s going on for us in these situations and how we can get some control back.You’ll be pleased to know that we are back in some familiar psychodynamic territory, transference and our old friends denial and rationalisation come out to play.  Just in time for us to have a think about before our summer holidays.Here are the highlights of this episode:(3.06) Disruptive passengers in life(6.00) Defence mechanisms and boundaries(9.11) Moving forward and setting boundariesSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

What is it like to be a parent of a child with autism?  Whilst there is a lot more information out there than there used to be, it still can be quite a lonely place for parents.  In this episode I’m talking to fellow SEN parent, Del Parsons, about what we have learnt along the way and why we are best placed to advocate for our children.Del is ‘The No-Nonsense Business Coach and Marketing Mentor’ who’s on a mission to give business owners and founders the skills, confidence and self-belief to market their business and sell their stuff in a way that feels good for them! As well as being a coach and mentor Del also has a property portfolio and is part of an aviation business which she runs with her husband. She’s built businesses with 8 figure revenues for herself, as well as for clients, so can apply the lessons learnt across the board.You can get in touch with Del at:Website: Delparsonscoaching.co.ukEmail: info@delparsonscoaching.co.ukLinkedIn: Del ParsonsInstagram: DelparsonscoachingFacebook: Del ParsonsHere are the highlights of this episode:(5.30) Relief at diagnosis(10.35) The assumptions people make(15.15) You know your child(21.24) A bit of controversy(34.10) Advocate for your childSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

I’m delighted to be welcoming another guest to the show today, fellow coach Kate Adey.  We discuss what it means to be in control, how much control we do have and what role anxiety plays for us.  Join us as we explore the narratives we construct for ourselves and how we can reframe our stories. Kate works with leaders in professional services navigating the challenges of a busy career and home life, helping them reconnect with the freedom and flow of their true nature. You can connect with kate either via LinkedIn (linkedin.com/in/kateadey) or via email (Kate@kateadey.co.uk).Here are the highlights of this episode:(4.23) Beyond our limitations(7.58) The illusion of not having control(11.41) Byron Katie(20.51) The link between anxiety and controlSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

I’m delighted to be bringing another guest to the show today, Penny Hopkinson.  Penny is an Operations Manual specialist and author of Manual Magic.  Join us as we delve into the world of learning and discover why it’s changed so much over the generations.Here’s how you can get in touch with Penny:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pennyhopkinsonEverything under one ‘roof': www.linktr.ee/pennyhopkinsonHere are the highlights for this episode:(2.22) 30% of global workforce under 30(8.21) The single source of truth(10.31) Five generations under one workplace(30.01) The importance of consistencySign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

Today I’m welcoming another guest to the show, Simon Bennett.  Simon is a friend of mine, a fellow coach and is keen to bring the concept of kindness to our attention.  Simon’s coaching practice builds on his experience of leading teams in high pressure organisations. He is passionate about working with leaders to best navigate the challenges and opportunities of the modern working world.  Simon shares a home in London with his husband, and teaches Aikido, a Japanese martial art. Simon is an Affiliate member of the European Mentoring and Coaching Council. Simon would love to hear any thoughts or feedback on the podcast, or any enquiries about working together in coaching. You can learn more about his work at www.sbennett.uk and email him at simon@sbennett.ukJoin us as we delve into what kindness means at home and at work, and how we can be more kind to ourselves and others.Here are the highlights of this episode:(5.16) Trying to fix the world to fix yourself(10.14) Boundaries(12.20) Authority structures(14.35) Kindness in the workplace(19.40) Everyone deserves to prioritise kindness for themselvesSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

This week’s episode marks a special occasion—both my birthday and the podcast’s one-year anniversary! We’re exploring the dynamics of birthdays: what they mean to us, the expectations we place on them, and how they reveal our deeper unconscious patterns. Freud wasn’t a fan of birthdays (except for the gifts!), and that got me thinking; how do we truly feel about getting older?Plus, I share some reflections on personal growth, the stories we tell ourselves, and why birthdays can be a great moment to check in with where we are in life.I’m launching a new course, Psychodynamics for Beginners! Initially designed for coaches, but soon to be available for anyone curious about how psychodynamic theory can help them make better choices in their everyday lives.  Click here for more info:https://mailchi.mp/5344a338c710/psychodynamics-for-beginnersHere are the highlights of this episode:(0.34) How Freud felt about birthdays(2.40) Bridget Jones(3.07) Are we where we want to be?(6.21) How other people respond to our birthdaysSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

Why does silence make us uncomfortable? We’ve all been in those moments where the quiet stretches just a little too long, and we feel the need to fill it. But what if silence isn’t empty at all? What if it’s one of the most powerful tools we have?In this episode, we explore the impact of silence, when it serves us, when it doesn’t, and how to use it to our advantage. We’ll also learn what Freud thought about it, why my son used it as a form of protest, and how silence can be both a gift and a weapon.Here are the highlights of this episode:(0.56) The paradox of silence on a podcast(1.17) What I thought good listening was(1.51) Silence as a response(3.37) The silent treatment(4.15) Freud’s take on silence(6.49) It’s always about the other personNew Training Course: Psychodynamics for BeginnersI’m launching a new course designed to make psychodynamic theory accessible—so we’re not just relying on social media soundbites to understand ourselves. Initially aimed at coaches, but soon available to a wider audience. If you’re interested, subscribe to my newsletter or book a chat with me for more details.  https://calendly.com/dynamicseverydaylife/30minSign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about how my confidence took a hit, how I unknowingly held myself back, and what ultimately helped me rebuild my sense of self. Spoiler alert: it involves pole dancing, platform boots, and a whole lot of fun!We’ll have a look at how our defence mechanisms get in our way and how they can subtly keep us stuck. Plus, I’ll invite you to reflect on where you might be self-sabotaging and what small (or big!) steps you can take to reclaim your confidence and joy.Here are the highlights of this episode:(1.40) The moment I realised my confidence had taken a knock(2.10) The surprising impact of stepping out of my comfort zone (hello, pole dancing!)(5.03) Building ourselves back up from adversity(6.09) Why we can get over busy at timesMy invitation for you to consider this week is where in your life are you holding yourself back? What stories are keeping you stuck? I encourage you to explore what’s stopping you and to take one step, big or small, towards moving forwards. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review. I’d love to hear what your ‘fabulous boots’ moment looks like! Sign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram