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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton
304 episodes   Last Updated: Jun 16, 25
Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about brushing your teeth in airport bathrooms, taking desserts from buffets, handling unwanted vacation guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to brush your teeth in an airport bathroom? When dessert is offered on a buffet, is it incorrect to take it along with the rest of the meal? What should I do about a friend who likes to save seats for a performance and then leave the venue? What to do about a friend who invited their daughter on our vacation without asking? What should I do when I'm trying to walk by someone, but we both keep trying to go the same way? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Konpira Fune Fune YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠Episode 269 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flipping over cutlery, making friends in kindergarten, choosing cup holders at sporting events, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Reversing cutlery on the table A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making friends in kindergarten QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should we handle a dinner invitation after a breakup? When attending a sporting event, which cup holder is yours? VENT OR REPENT: Upselling makeup, Wearing too much perfume CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the hospitality, Thanks for hosting in Los Angeles THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Terminator 2" opening scene Designer Imposters Fragrance commercial from 1988 YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠Episode 268 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about mowing laws without asking, coordinating invitation responses, dressing for theme weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do we do about our neighbor who mowed half of our lawn without our permission? Should couples coordinate their responses to invitations? How do I get my colleague to stop knocking on the door before entering our shared office? What to do about dinner party guests who were more than 15 minutes late? Are your outfits supposed to match the theme of a wedding? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠⁠No Mow May YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠Episode 267 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle crashing White House weddings, stealing flowers from neighbors, charging phones in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Judith Martin and the Nixon Administration A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Repetition QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK for my neighbor to take flowers from my yard without my permission? Is it rude for a woman to keep eating after her partner has finished? VENT OR REPENT: Blocking traffic, Charging phones CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A custom t-shirt, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠Judith Martin: In defense of ‘women’s pages’⁠ ⁠A fan's FSR t-shirt⁠ YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠ ⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠ ⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠ ⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Visit our official website⁠ ⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠ ⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ & ⁠Leah Bonnema⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ Theme Music: ⁠Rob Paravonian⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠Click here for details⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠Episode 194 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle playing Duck Duck Goose in Minnesota, sending out-of-office emails, taking free food samples, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Duck Duck Grey Duck A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Out of Office Emails QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How many and what type of items are you allowed to purchase at the pharmacy counter? What's the proper way to take a free food sample at a store? Reviewing a key detail from a previous question about sending anonymous birthday cards VENT OR REPENT: Changing the focus, Stealing cabs CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to everyone who came to see our live show in Los Angeles THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠Previous episode about anonymous birthday card Nick and Leah on the "Tamron Hall Show" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠Episode 266 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about pulling out chairs for others, sharing photos with AI, making unreasonable demands, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do when a gentleman pulls out your chair? What is the etiquette around sharing images of people to AI? How can I shut down rude comments about my early retirement? Is it ever acceptable to research someone’s details online before meeting them in person? Bonkers: Being asked to switch classes at a spin studio THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠Studio Ghibli on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠ ⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠ ⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠ ⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Visit our official website⁠ ⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠ ⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ & ⁠Leah Bonnema⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ Theme Music: ⁠Rob Paravonian⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠Click here for details⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠Episode 265 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle seating dinner party guests, getting spray tans, using fake return addresses, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dinner party seating A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a spray tan QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If a gift requires assembly, should you give it assembled or unassembled? Bonkers: Sending birthday cards with fake return addresses VENT OR REPENT: Women with long nails, The London Underground CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Rambo, Thanks for the birthday dinner THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Big Ben and Parliament scene in "National Lampoon's European Vacation" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠ ⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠ ⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠ ⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Visit our official website⁠ ⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠ ⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ & ⁠Leah Bonnema⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ Theme Music: ⁠Rob Paravonian⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠Click here for details⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠Episode 264 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about scheduling appointments with "ish," chewing food while on the telephone, socializing at galas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "ish" mean when scheduling meetings? What can I say to people who chew food in my ear while we're talking on the phone? Should event photos be sent to all invitees, even those that couldn't attend? What date should we engrave on a wedding gift when the official marriage date is different from the ceremony? What are good conversation starters when at charity and gala events? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW AOL commercial from 1995 YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 263 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle handling hot potatoes, claiming seats at buffets, talking during musicals, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Baked Potatoes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Host gifts that are not wine QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the correct way to claim a seat at a buffet? What to say when a stranger asks if my best friend and I are mother and daughter? VENT OR REPENT: Refusing hops seltzers, Talking during a musical CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the turkey information, Smiling on airplanes THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Taters scene in "Lord of the Rings" List of things to bring other than wine YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 262 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about objecting to marriages, watching strangers' luggage, asking for more chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle my sister-in law who doesn't think I should be married to her brother? How should we respond to strangers asking us to watch their belongings? How do you send invitations or thank you notes when you don't know the recipient's address? Is there a polite way to suggest to my brother that he should have enough dining chairs for everyone? Bonkers: An undisclosed dress code for a wedding rehearsal dinner THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Trailer for "Freaky Friday" movie Zafu and Zazen on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 211 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices