Own Your Pleasure

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom. Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they’re building as a couple. With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. How to work with Ash & Dawn:https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching Follow Ash & Dawn at: TikTok - @queercouplescoaching IG - @queercouplescoaching Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlighting that intimacy and eroticism can evolve and deepen over time. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their desires and advocate for their pleasure, regardless of age or past experiences. Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita:http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and finding creative solutions to enhance sexual enjoyment. They also touch on the significance of using lubrication, sex toys, and embracing vulnerability to maintain a fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to break societal taboos surrounding aging and sexuality, promoting a positive and open dialogue about pleasure at any age.   Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita: http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex, the impact of performance pressure, and the liberation found in choosing pleasure as a path to selflessness. Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita:http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and trust in relationships, and the impact of menopause on sexuality. The episode emphasizes the significance of owning one's pleasure and celebrating personal transitions. Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita:http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)

00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure 01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships 04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics 12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink 15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships 22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires 25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex 30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Communication in Relationships In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller addresses various questions related to sexual pleasure, kinks, and intimacy. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of open communication in relationships, navigating anxiety and performance issues in sexual dynamics, exploring submission and dominance in kink, and overcoming challenges related to orgasm during partnered sex. Whitni emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, education, and support in owning one's pleasure and fostering healthy sexual relationships. Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves (if it sticks around)

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels. Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksIG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemoves TikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai emphasizes the significance of awareness, self-advocacy, and the need to create space for joy in our lives. The discussion also touches on the challenges of receiving pleasure and the impact of societal pressures on personal experiences of joy and intimacy. Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sexuality educator and certified sexuality counselor. Dr. UC is an assistant professor at University of Utah at Salt Lake City in the College of Health. Dr. UC has clinical, research, and educational expertise in complex pelvic floor disorders, sexual function and dysfunction that centers intersectionality and biopsychosocial factors, particularly in marginalized communities. She is a national and international speaker and is on the medical advisory boards for femtech start-ups Dame Products, Origin., and O.School. Dr. Ossai is also creator/founder of YouSeeLogic, a sexual health platform for adults rooted in an intersectional framework that focuses on improving sexual joy, erotic intelligence, and autonomy through innovative education and community building. Learn More From Dr. UC: https://www.youseelogic.com info@youseelogic.com Follow Dr. UC at: IG - @youseelogic Threads - @youseelogic Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: TikTok - @bdemoves IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

In this conversation, Whitni Miller and Tuesday Feral discuss the challenges and strategies for non-binary and trans individuals in navigating pleasure and intimacy. They explore the impact of dysphoria on sexual experiences and the importance of finding ways to feel comfortable in one's body. They also discuss the use of accessories and clothing to affirm one's gender identity during sexual encounters. Communication and consent are emphasized as crucial in creating positive experiences, and the importance of individual preferences and authenticity in defining pleasure is highlighted. They also discuss the concept of gender dysphoria and how it can impact sexual experiences. They emphasize the need for trans-affirming and sex-positive support for individuals who may be struggling with their sexuality. They also address the issue of hyper-sexualization of trans people and the negative impact it can have on their self-esteem and relationships. Mx. Tuesday Feral, of Feral Resiliency, is a neurospicy educator, coach, therapist, and consultant. From creating and facilitating support programs, offering sexual health and gender exploration support as a coach, to working as a licensed counselor and sex therapist, Tuesday has been supporting trans and nonbinary folks and their families in Western North Carolina since 2008. With a unique, trauma informed, kink and CNM aware perspective, Tuesday also finds great fulfillment in teaching workshops and courses as well as providing consultation to individuals and groups who want to better support nonbinary and trans people in their work and their lives.Tuesday lives with their beloved feline companion in a small cabin surrounded by delightfully overgrown gardens, and in their free time they can be found gazing at the moon lovingly, tending their gardens and plants (and trying to outwit the resident groundhog to no avail), engaging in creative endeavors, dancing with abandon, nerding out about trauma and attachment or other topics of interest, and connecting with loved ones. Learn More From Tuesday: https://www.feralresiliency.com feralresiliency@gmail.com  Follow Tuesday at: FB - @mxtuesday IN - @feralresiliency Other resources mentioned by Tuesday: https://tranzmission.org/ https://openpathcollective.org/ Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: TikTok - @bdemoves IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler 00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) 00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship 00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM 00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles 00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves 00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigating Jealousy and Envy in Poly Relationships 00:43:10 Maintaining the Ethical Aspect of Polyamory 00:46:35 Unicorn Hunting: Approaching Ethically and Avoiding Power Dynamics 00:49:16 Challenging Hierarchical Polyamory 00:51:10 Recovering from Heartbreak 00:55:38 Managing Time in Multiple Relationships 00:59:30 Questioning Societal Norms In this episode, Whitni Miller and Adelina Adler discuss ethical non-monogamy and its various forms. Adelina, a GSRD sex coach and educator, explains that ethical non-monogamy is when individuals choose to open up their relationships outside of just one partner, both sexually and amorously. They emphasize the importance of communication, consent, and respect in ethical non-monogamous relationships. They debunk common misconceptions, such as the idea that ethical non-monogamy is a license to cheat, and highlight the need for emotional maturity and stability in relationships before opening them up. They also discuss the different types of non-monogamy, including polyamory, swinging, and relationship anarchy. In this conversation, Adelina Adler and Whitni discuss various aspects of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory. They explore topics such as relationship anarchy, jealousy vs. envy, the importance of informed consent, and the need to challenge societal norms and expectations. They emphasize the importance of communication, autonomy, and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Adelina also shares insights on recovering from heartbreak, managing time and scheduling, and the need for self-care and self-reflection. They encourage listeners to educate themselves, question societal constructs, and create their own relationship scripts. Learn More from Adelina: https://www.askaddyadler.com Follow Adelina at: IG - @askaddyadler Tikok - @askaddyadler YouTube & Spotify - Sexplorations! With Adelina Adler Ko-fi - @askaddyadler Reach out to Whitni at: www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: TikTok - @bdemoves IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks